CYBER STALKING

[Lux]

Definitions: A cyberstalker follows the victim's online activity to gather information, initiate contact, make threats, or engage in other forms of verbal intimidation. Cyberstalkers target victims using online forums, bulletin boards, chat rooms, spyware, and spam. They may engage in live chat harassment or flaming or they may send electronic viruses and unsolicited e-mails. More commonly they will post defamatory or derrogatory statements about their stalking target on web pages, message boards and in guest books designed to trigger a reaction or response from their victim, thereby initiating contact. When prosecuted, many stalkers have unsuccessfully attempted to justify their behavior based on their use of public forums, as opposed to direct contact. Once they get a reaction from the victim, they will typically attempt to track or follow the victim's internet activity. Classic cyberstalking behavior includes the tracing of the victim's IP address in an attempt to verify their home or place of employment.[1] According to Wayne Petherick (2005)[2] cyberstalking is an extension of traditional stalking using the Internet as a new modus operandi.

Stalking does not consist of single incidents, but is a continuous process. Similar to stalking off-line (physical stalking), cyberstalking can be a terrifying experience for victims, placing them at risk of psychological trauma, and possible physical harm. As Rokkers writes, "Stalking is a form of mental assault, in which the perpetrator repeatedly, unwantedly, and disruptively breaks into the life-world of the victim, with whom he has no relationship (or no longer has)....Moreover, the separated acts that make up the intrusion cannot by themselves cause the mental abuse, but do taken together (cumulative effect)."[3] (For a list of effects, see Stalking)

Some cyberstalking situations do evolve into physical stalking, and a victim may experience abusive and excessive phone calls, vandalism, threatening or obscene mail, trespassing, and physical assault.[1] Moreover, many physical stalkers will use cyberstalking as another method of harassing their victims.[4]

[terauparaha]

Hey, A lot of that has happened to me

[misilon]

moi too,...... and it still does ,..hahahaha!! pathetic
good on you lux to write about this

[sparrow]

Yep me too and I've seen it happen to other posters as well. Not good!

[terauparaha]

Hey misilon. How can I exalt you if you are a guest?

[misilon]

heyyy there ya go help yourself and give it heaps,..i like to hand them out as well as do quite a lot ,..catch you up ,...and there ya go an exalt fer you too ;D

[queenie]

gee that reminds me alot of the oldfriends messageboard.. but it was mainly contained in the boards, it was a common thing for some to befriend someone then sign on as another person and abuse the shite out the person since you had extracted lots of personal information regarding that person, especially from msn or the likes.. when i was chatting to people you start to get paranoid about how 'real' is this person.. personally i thought it was cowardly to use an anonomous to tell a person what you thought of them..

[sparrow]

Wow queenie - that is weird and I agree with you - what cowards.

[Lux]

Yellow bellied, attention seeking, boring immature trolls.

[Lux]

A few I have come across also seem to be heavy drinkers and have a fixation with other mens dangly bits - I'm not a psychologist but I have read up a bit on cyber stalkering and stalking in general and it appears that 'impotence' and 'small' willy syndrome does have an affect on the psychology of certain individuals, you might find those individuals gathered together in some pit of hell cyberwasteland planning their next stalker attack or bleating on about people they are already stalking around the net....

Theres loads of information online about this topic, very interesting reading.

[ngatilatte]

Some people like being stalked, they like it so much, they go looking for people to stalk them.

They even spend hours trawling through mindless posts on the many message boards in NZ, to find where their name has been mentioned.

Just to satisfy that need inside, the need to feel as if someone cares about them.

[Lux]

What brings you to that conclusion ngatilatte, have you done it? I can't think of anyone who I know that has been stalked online, liking being stalked, and if the cyber stalker thought their real or perceived victim liked being stalked they wouldn't be doing it.

Simply because the psychology of a stalker suggests that stalkers enjoy causing ill conceived harm and stress to the individual or individuals they are stalking, whether it is real or perceived harm.

[ngatilatte]

I am suggesting in a round about way, that some people who claim to be stalked by someone, are actually the stalkers.

I have seen lots of people join up to message boards, where someone they claim is a stalker posts, frequently, just so they can antagonise them enough to respond.

Have you been stalked Lux?

[sparrow]

Good point Lux. Also a psychological profile of a stalker extends into all sorts of descendant categories (such as emotoerotic, delusional and revenge filled). The main theme though is an unhealthy attraction to their victim and desire for the object of their attention to have some kind of relationship with them. Basically, the stalker is in love with their victim and wants to maintain contact in any way possible. Quite often, the stalker has relationship or sexual dysfunction.

[terauparaha]

queenie said:

gee that reminds me alot of the oldfriends messageboard.. but it was mainly contained in the boards, it was a common thing for some to befriend someone then sign on as another person and abuse the shite out the person since you had extracted lots of personal information regarding that person, especially from msn or the likes.. when i was chatting to people you start to get paranoid about how 'real' is this person.. personally i thought it was cowardly to use an anonomous to tell a person what you thought of them..

That's what people do to me. They go into a MB that I'm in and take on a new identity and just try to harrass me. It just means like you guys here say, that they are Cowards. I always say what I think of someone to their face as myself even though with different IDs but I make sure that they know who I am.

yeah, they're just Cowards

[Lux]

Actually that is exactly how the 'cyber stalker' tries to validate his stalking activities by suggesting that their victim is the stalker and not visa versa, its all part of the stalker psychology.

You might like to post in the 'where are you from' topic in general, tell us where your from and maybe tell us of some of your interests too ngatilatte I knew another person with the nick latte she was a real cool chick!

[ngatilatte]

Are you being stalked Te Raupreha?

Cool name BTW

[sparrow]

admin said:

Actually that is exactly how the 'cyber stalker' tries to validate his stalking activities by suggesting that their victim is the stalker and not visa versa, its all part of the stalker psychology.

You might like to post in the 'where are you from' topic in general, tell us where your from and maybe tell us of some of your interests too ngatilatte I knew another person with the nick latte she was a real cool chick!

Exactly. Some stalkers delude themselves (delusional, emotoerotic and revenge-filled) that they are the victims of stalking. Generally this falls into the category of "cognitive dissonance" which, as you correctly point out Lux, is to minimise their abberant behaviour. It is a way in which they can justify their own actions to themselves and others. All this does is try to continue an imagined (delusional) relationship with the object of their desire.

[ngatilatte]

admin said:

Actually that is exactly how the 'cyber stalker' tries to validate his stalking activities by suggesting that their victim is the stalker and not visa versa, its all part of the stalker psychology.

You might like to post in the 'where are you from' topic in general, tell us where your from and maybe tell us of some of your interests too ngatilatte I knew another person with the nick latte she was a real cool chick!

Your not going to stalk me if I tell you are you?

[terauparaha]

sparrow said:

Good point Lux. Also a psychological profile of a stalker extends into all sorts of descendant categories (such as emotoerotic, delusional and revenge filled). The main theme though is an unhealthy attraction to their victim and desire for the object of their attention to have some kind of relationship with them. Basically, the stalker is in love with their victim and wants to maintain contact in any way possible. Quite often, the stalker has relationship or sexual dysfunction.

Ewww that makes me feel sick. That my main stalker from Invercargill might have sexual feelings for me. He does talk about my private parts a lot. Ewwww

[Lux]

No dear, just trying to establish your reason for being here

[sparrow]

They probably wouldn't rationalise it as "sexual" feelings TR, but those are the underpinnings of the profile (emotoerotic and deluded - which then turns to revenge filled when the object of their desire does not want a relationship). And yes ... it is Ewwwww and definitely YUCK.

[ngatilatte]

Mindless chit Chat

What other reason is there. Fill in the gaps between appointments

I can go away, just say the word, I'll go....

[sparrow]

ngatilatte said:

Mindless chit Chat

What other reason is there. Fill in the gaps between appointments

I can go away, just say the word, I'll go....

Okay. See ya.

[misilon]

absolutely right that the stalker will always allude to the idea they are being stalked by the ID they are stalking,..i have recognized that and giggle to myself,...
.its very easy to irritate them and they are very clever in thier chosen piece of deviousness,..so they think hehe!!